I often looked at life not wanting “bad” things to happen or letting people, circumstances or things to impact how I felt. After listening to Chris Lee talks about resistance in person and with Lewis Howes on his podcast, I really never appreciated the different “players” in life. Or how their specific roles when viewed in the proper context can be used as some of the biggest tools you’ll get in life.
Breakdown to breakthrough.
How often we dread looking at specific things in order to avoid the feelings or being uncomfortable. But from that comes our greatest lessons and it’s like having a memory of a goldfish. Never remembering and embracing those anxious feelings lead to breakthroughs/lessons. Part of it is the addiction to being comfortable… we live in the space of “I want to be in place where I’m financially secure” or “I’d like to leave this job but I’m comfortable and that’s OK”. We get attached to it like a drug and in the chaos of life’s changing environment we get shocked into reality and realize we really don’t like being comfortable. It’s nice for a little while but it’s boring and it causes the same feelings that we look to avoid. It’s a vicious cycle… anxious>look for comfort>find comfort>become bored disengaged>anxious about unfulfillment>should have made a change earlier>beating myself up about the past>my life is terrible and ruined... Sound familiar?
I relate it to surfing… I’ve been 3 times in my life so I’m a pro #gnarly. When I finally catch a wave after trying for hours and ride it all the way to shore I’m pumped. I had vision of hanging 10 and a result/success… awesome.
Now the next action is critical… A) turn around and get back out there and apply the success/lessons and do it again or B) bask in the glory of riding a single wave because I’m unsure if I’ll be able to catch another one and I don’t want to ruin that rush… just hang out and watch more waves that I could have ridden.
Instead of being caught up with the result of how many waves and perfect rides… why not just go into the day with the mindset of “I rode 15 waves and shredded my face off brah!!”.
Recently this concept has been prevalent in a lot of my conversations. Results win… for the most part. They win in business, they win in relationships, they win in health and fitness. However, there is a hidden nugget that I’ve been missing for a long time which has start to click over the past couple years and very much recently.
Instead of being in the mindset that results motivate you. Put yourself in the mindset that you’ve already achieved the result… the result DOES NOT matter… I’ll repeat that. THE RESULT DOES NOT MATTER.
You get to use result as your benchmark of your declaration of what you want to achieve AND put yourself in that mindset of what does it feel like to achieve ________. Once you’ve achieve this mindset the result won’t matter because you already won. The next piece is critical however… TAKE ACTION. You will be confident, fearless and determined. The things that would shake you before no longer do because you’ve already WON. It’s so simple but yet one of the most challenging things to do. It’s putting faith that your belief in yourself will achieve some vast goal. BUT the great thing is… you don’t need the goal… you just need the mindset and with that the goals will take care of themselves as long as you are taking specific action. So it’s not a fingers crossed, sit on my but and pray the universe will drop something in my lap. It’s INTENTION + ACTION!
Break free from resisting, don’t get comfortable and set intention + action.
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