 Something people struggle with on both ends of the extrovert/introvert spectrum. The extrovert commonly associated with overconfidence while the introvert commonly associated with lacking of confidence. It’s because in the simplest terms it seems these two should cancel each other out. If I’m self-aware of my own flaws how can I be confident knowing I have a particular “weakness”. Conversely if I don't care or I’m oblivious of my own flaws… why shouldn’t I have confidence? There’s also a middle ground that an introvert or extrovert you can find. It’s being OK with the fact that we all have strengths and “weaknesses” or opportunities for growth. And to recognize and be humble about that should in fact bring you self-confidence because you are in the smaller population that is self-aware enough to go there… did I put your mind in a pretzel? As you get older you see this in its basic form with kids… some children will try anything right away and that might lead to them making mistakes, being embarrassed or getting hurt. Other kids over assess all the risks and get so overwhelmed it leads to indecision and possibly missing opportunities. Or they might eventually try it and like it but have to live with the regret of “why didn’t I start this sooner?”. In most cases they are OK making the deal instead of the alternative of jumping without assessing and feeling pain, embarrassment, fear, etc. I’m not entirely sure where the sweet spot lands... However as an introvert try and jumping in head first in a “safe” environment to build that habit of going first and trusting instincts and actually feeling that pain and getting over it. And extroverts take that second to reflect to maybe not jump from that rope swing and be on the next episode of America’s Funniest Video. My advice and what I've been following is give whatever makes you uncomfortable a try and I’m sure you will either enjoy the process of pushing yourself or curse and blame me for any failure... but again failure isn't a bad thing.  |
