Being away from home for the first time for Thanksgiving has been a very eye opening experience. I realized the pressure to have one day be perfect only to have it eventually be disappointing has been my mindset for so long around the holidays. Even if traffic is smooth, you arrive on time, the food is great and the families get along… something will usually trigger me to feel unsatisfied. Maybe it's having that extra piece of pie or beer or the person you are dating didn’t text you first to say "Happy Turkey Day" or your neck is sore from awkwardly sleeping in a rocking chair… either way I've found something always seems to get in the way of perfection.
Today walking around where I live, specifically in an area that seemed to not even acknowledge the holiday, I found people were out and about. Stores were still open, pickup basketball was happening… it was as if it was a normal day. I found comfort in that though, it caused me to reflect and really think that we don’t have to wait for one specific day to come together and be perfect to tell our families or friends we appreciate them. We can do the same thing tomorrow, or next week, or next month or whenever. By putting expectations on one day we set ourselves up to be disappointed and more importantly we can’t be present and enjoy that moment.
I've found over this past specifically year with a focus on meditation and being present I've had more authentic moments then I can remember having in years. I've felt emotions so strongly from the littlest actions like saying hello to complete strangers or appreciating someone’s time or effort.
So tomorrow when you are hungover or feeling bloated take the time to think more about what you are grateful for and don’t wait until next year to express it. Make a habit out of it and watch the expectations fly out the window like that button on your jeans after the third bowls of Brigham's Ice Cream.
Normal guy with comedic tendencies... introverted with extroverted tendencies... yogi with stressful tendencies... over 30 years old with under 30 year old tendencies